Growing up we learn to associate to friends, family and co-workers but seldom do we now have appropriate role models to learn healthy intimate relating from. In couples therapy spouses can learn what makes a connection satisfying and where they could enhance theirs.
Feeling at ease with your therapist
It is important for you as a Couple feel comfortable with your therapist, be it a girl, a man or a ‘therapy bunch’. Offer your therapist a couple of sessions to feel if there is a great match between you, your spouse and the method by which in which the therapist works with you.
What to expect
In couples therapy counsellors, Coaches and therapists normally follow different theories. What you could expect is that your therapist will ask about your relationship news to understand how you came together as a couple and what your struggles have been along the way. They will also take your own personal history including some details about your family of origin to find out if there are patterns in your family history that are replicating themselves.
Individual sessions – couples session
Personally discovered that a mixture of couples and individual sessions works best and in all couples difficulties there are possibly concealed personal challenges which are triggered by the spouse. These personal issues appear as an invitation to be taken care of and it occasionally is better for the person to work through them in their own time and distance.
In couple’s session discovered that couples learn to better pay attention to their partner when they are asked to listen and then talk, rather than to respond immediately. This arrangement helps them to be able to fully express themselves within the secure environment of their treatment and on the other hand to consciously listen with patience and maintain reactivity low.
Use your therapist wisely
They do not have to come into treatment to pay me to see them have the very same struggles as they have at home. This time is better utilised to consider the underlying reasons and mechanics that cause the fighting. The truth is it is hard to know what to expect. Every therapist will have a different experience level and various procedures to solve your issues. That is why it is extremely important to locate a therapist that you are comfortable with.
Ask for professional assistance
If you are wondering if Couples treatment is for you then give it a go. When emotions run high reactivity is all but unavoidable. Sometimes all your efforts may not be enough to alter the routines you and your spouse have gotten yourself into. When you still have not found the courage to ask for help it is time to do it today.